Disclaimer: Every person is different in what they find to be helpful, spiritual, humorous and comforting, which is why I include a section for general thoughts to clarify exactly what I liked and disliked about the book. This is simply meant to be a guide in helping you find the book that best suits your individual needs as a newly widowed person. I wish you peace on this difficult journey.
Title: Widows Wear Stilettos: A Practical and Emotional Guide for the Young Widow
Author(s): Carole Brody Fleet with Syd Harriet, Ph.D, Psy.D.
Publishing Info: New Horizon Press, Far Hills, NJ 2009
Helpful Meter 1-5 (1 being not at all helpful, 5 being very helpful): 5
Spiritual Meter 1-5 (1 being not spiritual, 5 being very spiritual): 1
Humor Meter 1-5 (1 being not humorous at all, 5 being very humorous): 3
Comfort Meter 1-5 (1 being not comforting, 5 being very comforting): 4
Staci’s Recommendation (1 being pass on this, 5 being read this today) 5
General thoughts and feelings on the book:
This book covers the very practical aspects of being a widow such as, dealing with social security, life insurance payouts, notifying many entities of your spouse’s passing and obtaining lawyers, therapists or other help when needed. However, it also focuses on the different aspects of moving forward and embracing life. There are areas to journal and keep records and a few pages in the back for notes.
The author also attempts to instill a bit of humor into the book, which may be welcome by some people a little farther along in their journey. It made me smile a few times but I never laughed out loud.
She doesn’t speak much about spiritual or faith based recovery short of suggesting talking to a member of clergy if you feel it would be helpful.
Overall the book covers many of the “real life” aspects of being a widow in addition to the healing process.